Suffering as Grace!
Suffering stinks but it is grace from the Universe! Suffering is what makes us grow immensely. Suffering prepares the ground for exercising compassion, courage, and humility. In my life at least, suffering has made me grow immensely… I will go farther and say that most spiritual (or personal) growth has come from suffering.
Despite that, there is no way in hell that I will knowingly cause suffering to someone.